>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
>
>Anyone ever catch this talk? Explores a pretty interesting
>theory that I think is worth considering.
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>In short, porn destroys a natural and healthy sexual appetite,
>as real life scenario's cannot meet the diversity and
>accessibility that porn provides.
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>If you watch porn regularly, this talk might be for you.

It can mess you up but it doesn't have to at all. Sure, it could probably ruin you for 'boring' or 'bad' sex where's both folks aren't trying to take care of each other's needs. Or sex with someone you don't care about. But if you love the person you're with and you find that person even mildly attractive, porn should basically be like 'game film' that you use for ideas of how you might add on or switch things up with that person. In this way, my wife is a benefactor of me watching porn. I now apply what I've seen over the years to/with her. I have always enjoyed porn more when the women are built similarly to women I've most recently had good sexual experiences with. And luckily for me and probably not accidentally, there's several porn girls that have the 'positive bigness' that my wife has. Tmi? Oh well...sorry...

And I'd have to be classified as a heavy porn watcher..especially if my whole adult life is considered. I found my parents stash as a teen...3 vhs tapes. One was a 6-hour comp and it was killer. VDR etc.I had sex before I masterbated. In college, I put together my own stash of 10 or so vhs tapes. My early sex life was fortunate...aka girls let me have at it when they let me have it, so average 1 on 1 porn wasn't necessarily 'wild' to me. After that, I met a chick who did not and would not give head, we had bad sex a few times, it ruined me mentally for a couple years, and I fell on hard times as I worked a lot, etc. I had some runs as a single dude in the high speed internet era. And I saw a gang of stuff. I know names..lots of names. I bought DVDs. Lots of DVDs. And even now, I still watch from time to time. About an hour a week on average Id guess. That is way down from before I met the wife for sure. I can take it or leave it, but why leave it if I don't have to? I think it puts me more in a frame of mind to properly ''handle' my wife when the door gets locked at night or if I wake up and find myself with a wife who wants to do something.

And I could watch porn 20 minutes before an episode with my wife and it is still very on. My sex drive only dips when I'm stressing a lot, eating super poorly, and/or not working out. And even then, it just takes a few days off and it's back on.

Also, I had a strip club phase. It lasted a few years. AND yes I slept with some skrippas outside of the cluuub. Maybe THAT and my fortunate beginnings helped mute whatever bad stuff porn does to some folks. Or maybe my wife is pornish enough to take care of me and I'm okay for now. Maybe if she stopped being what I needed sexually, I'd go super sideways. Maybe not.