make that several guys...

that were tagged abusive...

but later found out...

on one...it was a 1 time occurence...they broke up initially...then less than a year later repaired it with no repeat offenses (5 years+ later)

another one who had never had any history of ANY violent behavior...but had a highly volatile/abusive relationship with one woman...never to have any issues since...about 2 long-term relationships later...same ol g...

i know about 2 of each of those type of abusive guys...

i knew a couple chronically abusive guys who are all likely nonredeemable assholes to this day

I myself have found myself in an abusive situation...literally once in my life...never again...

my point being...it's probably more wise to mind your business...if he's changed...he's fine and she's fine...if he hasn't...she likely already knows