>maybe someone w/ more experience can explain it to me, but if
>you're gay, you're still a man, no? why not be the gay prom
>king? why do so many gay men seem to associate as female?

b/c they do. there are plenty gay men who are 'masculine'.

>if you FEEL like you're woman trapped in a man's body, that's
>something different

yes. yes it is.

but it doesn't seem like that's the case
>w/ most "queen"-type gays.

right. there are plenty effeminate gay men who have NO desire to live as women and who don't see themselves as women trapped in a male body. they are men in male bodies who live as men. sure they may be effeminate men, but they're men. don't get it twisted. don't make assumptions.