>Unless two people are supposed to somehow spontaneously and
>accidently find themselves having sex.


The stereotype is: Most women don't think they should be "finding themselves having sex" with people they just meet. Stereotypically, women want a relationship before sex.

So...

If a man has the mentality of "actively looking for sex" (which presumes I am guessing sex very soon after meeting a person) that whole mentality in itself could be described as "predatory" right off the bat.

Now....

You could do the TOKP reply thing and say "of course, when I wrote in reply #8 'actively attempting to have sex,' I was referring the the entire 'dance' of "relationship first, then eventual sex after a while."


but.....

It seemed pretty likely you were referring to something more immediate than a drawn out process, which is why that could or should be seen as far different than what women want and therefore somewhat "predatory."