people are different to one another, what works with Mary, will not work with Shelley. my advice is to listen to your heart and go with the flow. if you feel something, and if you feel it being reciprocated in some way, and you feel good talking about it, than do so. be yourself and if it doesn't work, than it won't work later. its too stressful trying to be in a relationship in a way where very move is calculated and well reasoned, there is no reason or rhyme to this shit sometimes, so just go with it.