arguments like the one in the OP probably have more to do with a particular scenario then an actual "rule". if dude is unemployed and supposed to be out looking for work and he's still lampin when she got home...or maybe he's been promising to do yardwork, fix some shit, clean up...etc. and if these things are continually happening...that's probably the kind of thing that causes that sorta beef. i doubt it's just because he decided to hang out on the couch for one day...unless she's batshit crazy.