My niece(the 10-year old), has a b/f, that she "shares" w/ her best friend. They call him up on three-way on Saturdays, and talk all day(about God only knows WHAT). I asked her, "Why don't you let your friend get her OWN b/f?" "But Auntie," she said, "she's my best friend, and I love her. She likes him too, so what was I supposed to do? It was then that we decided to share." "What about the other boys?" I asked. "Oh Auntie," she says w/ her hands on her little hips, "they are SO SILLY. He's the cutest one. And he's NOT silly." I've accompanied her on field trips, and what she says is true: he DOES have eyelashes that 'curl for days', and he's a "chill" lil' dude, and the cutest lil' thing. Like an old man. At least she does not like the lone white boy from the Black boys crew anymore, like she did two years back, b/c he was "cool", according to her. I'm like, GOT DAG, we're male-sharing in the FOURTH GRADE now!?

>>2. Polygamy: should we stop "fakin' the funk", w/ all these
>>babydaddies, and sleepin' around w/ other people's husbands,
>>etc., and just say 'F*** it, we just need to go on and
>become
>>a polygamous society w/in a monagamous society-at-large'? &
>if
>>we let Brothahs do this, do you think they could handle
>>it(financially, emotionally & Spiritually w/o letting that
>Ego
>>run amuck)?
>
>i dont think that polygyny is such a bad idea. but the man
>must be able to afford multiple wives. he'd have to be very
>secure and confident in his manhood and ability to lead,
>provide, teach, and attend. i'd say, if a man can effectively
>maintain peace in his home with wives that work together for
>the good of the family and respect one another, why not? now
>days, a woman without a man is vulnerable. is he not our
>protector? there are too many women, not enough men. i dont
>see why people think polygyny is so outrageous. it seems like
>a natural and ancient way to do things.