>But
>it only makes sense to be safe. That is going to require a
>total overhaul of everything our mothers told us(well, not
>mine, but she's a different type of 'cookie') regarding
>relationships. We can't TOTALLY "exhale" anymore. It's just
>not safe.

i was always encouraged to look out for me anyway, so i guess i'm on your level with that.


>Besides, if no one has anything to hide anyway, why
>not get tested together, and if you aren't trying to get
>pregnant, why not continue to use condoms(even AFTER things
>get serious)? I know, that's not how we are USED to doing
>things. But, people are still dying out here(don't get it
>twisted). We can't hold onto the old ways of doing things, AND
>remain healthy. Something's gotta give.

again, very true.

sounds like we agree on the problem, but differ on tactics.

knowing that--ethnographically speaking--blk women are the most likely to stay within their race in matters of marriage and relationships, spreading (possible) bullshit that compounds the mistrust already inherent in a lot of blk relationships is NOT doing anything to solve the problem, imo. it's just making us more hateful/isolated from one another.

aside from the DL issue, there are the far more salient problems of self-esteem, mental/spiritual health, sexual/reproductive education, etc that could be focused on with the same or similar results.

e.g. love yourself = take care of yourself = less likely to deal in b.s. relationships

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