>Does my theory hold any weight? 

Well, yeah.  I think perception is the problem and worse how
girls are conditioned.  Some of us live in a fantasy world as
far as looking for a guy or mate to take care of our material
or financial needs.  Another issue I was talking about to my
best friend the other day concerned fatherless girls who often
try to live out fantasies about men and what they need
emotionally, financially, etc.  I use the word fantasy because
their expectations are sometimes unrealistic and based on
material needs.  We sometimes lower our expectations because
of low self-esteem, self-worth or lack of security/stability.

>I guess I saying we (men)
>can't do this alone - meaning turning our community
around.
>For all of our MLKs and Malcolm Xs, it was the women who
did
>the real work...it's you everytime...doing the work but
not
>getting the credit. What if women set the agenda this time
and
>led the movement?

Some of us are working on it. ;)