>...at age 19 but this guy followed me from high school to New
>York City and we were in college. The only difference was I was
> not ready to let go of my "politics" as far as my
>relationship, so I burned a bridge and lost a friend.

Actually I was just being funny about the tongue wagging part. As far as your "exploring options" comment I don't agree with it and it's not due to lack of evolving on my part, I more so attribute it to maybe some "giving up" on your part. I've heard so many cases of women saying there are not brothas left or they are all dating white women so i will do the same. I have problems with this attitude, I don't tell anybody who to date but I feel how I feel for valid reasons. Black men and women are a unit as far as I am concerned. When we abandon each other then we cease to exist. If one leg is bad the good leg has to be strong enough for the bad leg until it gets better, if both legs are incapable then we just stand still and rot.